What makes us happy? What brings satisfaction? What can give us a sense of fulfillment knowing that our lives have counted for something?
In their search for happiness and fulfillment some people accumulate possessions or money. Other people try to find it through activities and experiences – they are always trying something new or traveling somewhere. Some look for satisfaction in work, building or making things. Some seek fulfillment in the realm of the mind. They are always interested in the latest ideas or searching out another philosophy. Still others try to find happiness through pleasure. They indulge all their cravings of the flesh. Other people take the opposite course. They try to find satisfaction in self-denial. They immerse themselves in good works.
Faced with overwhelming odds or unsurmountable opposition people generally have one of two reactions: Either they panic and give up without even trying to overcome, or they lash out in suicidal desperation. However, there is a third option available to us.
There was once a good and righteous king. During his reign justice prevailed and his people prospered. One day, however, he received news that other kingdoms were sending a vast army against him. He and his people had done nothing to deserve this. On the contrary, they had treated the nations who were attacking them kindly.
Sometimes when people get into financial difficulty they put up some of their possessions as security for a loan. Typically a money lender will loan them a small fraction of what the items are worth. If a person cannot repay the loan within a certain number of days, the money lender will sell the things he received as security for the loan. However, if the person can repay the loan, including interest within the agreed time-frame, then he can reclaim the things he put up for security. We call this process of buying back something we own “redemption.”
Often we blame our situation on a lack of resources. “If I only had a little more money, I wouldn’t always be behind in my payments!” “If I had a rich uncle I’d have a nicer house!” If my boss wasn’t prejudiced I wouldn’t be passed over for promotion!” “If I had more education people would respect me more!” To put it another way, we feel that we lack the things we need and blame the lack on external factors which are beyond our control.
Even worse, we sometimes use the lack of resources as an excuse to avoid doing things we know we ought to do. “If my work didn’t demand so much from me, I could spend more time with you, son.” “How can I show hospitality to others when I barely have enough to feed my own family?”
There is no question that raising children is difficult. In addition to the expense and hard work involved in raising them, children often bring us much pain, heartache and sorrow. In spite of the work and sorrow which children bring, people continue to have them because children also bring us much joy, laughter and love. The benefits of having children far outweigh the difficulties. As Jesus said, “A woman giving birth to a child has pain because her time has come; but when her baby is born she forgets the anguish because of her joy that a child is born into the world.” (John 16:21 NIV) The same is true as a child grows – the joy overshadows the anguish.
We all know them – those annoying people who mind everybody’s business but their own. They give advice where it is not wanted. They loudly proclaim their opinions even though nobody has asked what they think. They have a solution even when there is no problem – and, even if there were a problem, what they propose would only make things worse. Worst of all, they tell everyone how they should live while their own lives and homes are in shambles. They see no irony in telling you how to invest your money while at the same time asking you for a small loan to tide them over some “unexpected and temporary” financial embarrassment. Needless to say, we not only find such people annoying, we do not respect them.
Every four years athletes from all over the world gather and compete to see who is the best. They work hard and go through rigorous training in order to prepare themselves for the contest. However, all the hard work and training does not guarantee success. Any number of things can happen which interfere with an athlete’s performance. And, in any case, only one person receives the prize. We are blessed that receiving a heavenly reward does not depend on our physique, our skills or random chance.
Success! Everybody wants it, yet few obtain it. At least as the world views success.
What is success, anyway? Many define it as having a large bank account or many possessions. Others view success as having power or influence. Still others equate it with fame. In reality, however, success simply means accomplishing what we set out to do or achieving a goal. The poor man who accomplishes his desire to raise polite and respectful children is at least as successful as the millionaire who acquires a company he desired to own. The unknown housewife who accomplishes her goal of maintaining a clean and welcoming home for her husband is as least as successful as the movie star who achieves fame.
When things don’t go as we think they should, we like to fix the blame on someone. We want to hold someone responsible for what went wrong. Assuming we are not merely trying to blame someone else for our own shortcomings, this desire is tied up with our sense of justice. Those who do wrong should pay – especially those who cause injury or harm.
Our society and culture put a tremendous emphasis on education. We send children to school at earlier and earlier ages. We pressure our young people to enter college. We place great value on degrees, certificates and academic credentials.
There is no question that learning and training are good things. The more we know the easier it is to make good decisions; the easier it is to navigate life. A solid grasp of mathematics, the language arts, history and philosophy can be very beneficial. But, as with anything else, giving too high a priority to education can be harmful.